Stop being a good boyfriend

0:00Everything that you've been taught since

0:01you were a kid is absolutely utterly

0:03incorrect. You've been taught to satisfy

0:05a woman, to be nice to her, to always be

0:07there for her, to do all these things,

0:09right? You want to be a good boyfriend,

0:10and this is what every man has to offer

0:12to every woman. Every man is trying to

0:14be a good boyfriend. Every man is trying

0:15to buy her gifts, get her flowers, be

0:18respectful, take her out, do whatever

0:20she wants to do. And you think, right,

0:22in your brain, you're a man, you're

0:24logical, you would think that this would

0:26get the girl to respect you. You would

0:28think that, oh, the girl would

0:30look at me and go, you know, this man is

0:32trying hard to do the right thing, he's

0:33trying hard to, you know, satisfy me and

0:37make the relationship work. I'm going to

0:39reciprocate, and I'm also going to show

0:40him respect, and I'm also going to try

0:42hard to make this work, and I'm also

0:43going to show him love. But, this is not

0:44how it works. Everything you've been

0:46taught is incorrect, and this is just

0:48not how [ __ ] works. If you want her

0:51to be satisfied in the relationship, you

0:52need to do the opposite of all of this,

0:54and I'll tell you exactly why.

0:56You need to stop trying to make things

0:58work.

0:59If you want things to work out, you need

1:01to stop trying to make things work. I

1:03want to make a very simple example for

1:05you.

1:07Do you think a man who's focused on his

1:09mission, and his success, and his goals,

1:13which is the only kind of man that women

1:14are looking for, because this is the

1:15only kind of man that's going to be safe

1:17for her future, and going to be able to

1:18provide for her. Do you think this kind

1:19of man is going to sit there and try to

1:21satisfy a woman? Do you think this is

1:23the type of man that's going to do

1:25everything in his power

1:26to try and make her happy instead of

1:28himself?

1:29He'll drop his business, he'll drop the

1:31gym, everything. He'll drop it to go

1:33satisfy her. She wants to go to the

1:34beach, great. I'm dropping the business,

1:36I'm dropping the gym, I'm going to go to

1:37the beach.

1:39This man,

1:40this man who's achieved all these

1:41things, would never do this.

1:43This is why he's achieved all these

1:44things. This is why others respect him.

1:46This is why his friends respect him.

1:47This is why his business partners

1:48respect him. This is why women respect

1:50him.

1:51Because he doesn't drop anything for

1:53nobody, and he focuses on what he's

1:54supposed to focus on, and you, you are

1:56the opposite of this, because you're

1:57trying to satisfy her. But the only

1:59thing you do when you try to satisfy her

2:00is you is you show her you have no

2:02value.

2:03Absolutely no value.

2:05Because your entire life revolves around

2:07her. If your entire life revolves around

2:09her, guess what it shows her? That

2:10you're a loser, that you have no

2:11options, and you're not ambitious, and

2:12you have nothing else to focus on. So,

2:14this is the thing. You can give her

2:15energy, and you can give her time, but

2:16there has to be something in your life

2:18that you give more energy and more time

2:19to, that you put above her. She can

2:21never be on the pedestal. She can never

2:23be your priority.

2:24And if you're always sitting there

2:25trying to make things work, trying to

2:27fix things, she gets upset, you try to

2:29make her happy. Guess what? You're

2:30investing time

2:32and showing her that your time has no

2:34value, and that you'd rather sit there

2:36and argue with her and deal with her

2:38[ __ ] which half of the time is just

2:40a test, and you're failing the test,

2:42rather than work on your business, or

2:43work on your future, or try to achieve

2:44something.

2:46And this signals to her, this man is

2:48emotional. This man is not loyal to

2:50logic,

2:52which is what's going to be safe for her

2:54is a man who's logical, who calculates

2:56and understands, you know what? My time

2:58is better spent investing my time into

3:00the business than her. No, this man is

3:02emotional, because this man is so afraid

3:04and scared to lose me. This man gets so

3:06upset when I get upset. This man is so

3:09sad and lonely.

3:12He's emotional. This man is not safe for

3:14my future, because a man who's emotional

3:16in business, for example, will never

3:17succeed. You think a man who makes

3:20decisions in business based off of

3:21emotion and how he feels would ever

3:23succeed in business? No. The reason why

3:25he's successful in business is because

3:26he's logical. He makes calculated

3:27decisions.

3:29Emotional decisions are not calculated

3:30decisions. And this She doesn't know.

3:33She doesn't know

3:35why she feels the way she feels about

3:37you. But I'm telling you, these tests

3:39that you're failing constantly, that's

3:40why she feels the way she feels about

3:41you. That's why she has no respect for

3:43you. Because in her natural state of

3:46thought, when she sees you focusing on

3:49her, rather than your future, she

3:52automatically

3:53sees She might not realize this. She's

3:56just losing attraction, but she

3:58automatically loses attraction because

4:01what her brain is signaling to her is

4:03that this man is not safe for my future.

4:06Because this man is focused on the wrong

4:08things in life.

4:10Okay? Everything you've been taught is

4:12wrong.

4:13You've been taught by your teacher

4:14teachers, by your mother, by other

4:16girls, oh yeah, just be nice, oh just do

4:19what she wants to do, oh you know, just

4:21buy her flowers and tell her how much

4:23you love her and how beautiful she is.

4:24This is everything you should not do.

4:27All these things are exactly what you

4:29shouldn't do and this is exactly how

4:30you're going to lose your girl.

4:32This is exactly why she disrespects you

4:34in front of her friends. Because your

4:36time has no value. She looks at you and

4:38she goes, this guy has nothing better to

4:40do but to spend every day with me. You

4:42text her every day. You call her every

4:44day. This is another big thing that guys

4:46do is they have to have that constant

4:47communication because they're so afraid

4:49of the distance that she's going to go

4:51do something else without them or she's

4:53going to text another guy. It's like,

4:54you need to just let that be.

4:57And let me tell you, the thing is that

4:58if you just let it be without monitoring

5:00her and you don't try to check in or you

5:01don't care what she's doing, she's not

5:03going to talk to another guy because

5:04she's going to be too busy thinking

5:05about why you aren't talking to her.

5:07When you're constantly there

5:09entertaining her and you're constantly

5:11there for her, she gets bored of that.

5:13Because it's the same thing every day.

5:15She doesn't crave to see you anymore cuz

5:17she gets to see you all the time. Your

5:18time has no value because she has

5:20constant access to it.

5:22So, this is what it is. You're failing

5:24all her tests, she disrespects you, and

5:27then instead of letting things be and

5:29saying this is the way it is. Like let's

5:31say she has a problem with something.

5:32Let's say she wanted to go to the beach,

5:34right? She wanted to go to the beach.

5:36She's being disrespectful. She knows you

5:38got a business to run and she knows on

5:40this day, let's say you had a meeting or

5:41something. And she knows it. She'll ask

5:43you on that same day to drop that

5:44meeting and go to the beach. Because you

5:46failed all the other tests. So, she

5:47doesn't have enough respect to not ask

5:49you some dumb [ __ ] like that. She's

5:51going to ask you on that day

5:53because she's trying to see how far she

5:54can push it to go to the beach. And what

5:56you do is you try to fix things.

5:59You guys maybe got into an argument

6:00before and now she wants to go to the

6:01beach. She's like, "Let's make up." And

6:02instead of sticking to your business,

6:04you drop it. And what you do is you

6:05signal to her you have no value.

6:07You have no options and you're desperate

6:09for her and you need to her to be in

6:10your life and this is why you're going

6:11to do whatever she wants to do.

6:13And all you're doing is signaling that

6:14you're a low-value man.

6:16You think you're being a good boyfriend.

6:19But what you really are doing is just

6:21lowering

6:22the attraction that she has for you.

6:24You're lowering your perceived value in

6:26her eyes. That's all you're doing.

6:28By trying to fix things, you're just

6:30showing that you care. And by showing

6:31that you care, you show

6:34that she is your priority

6:36and that there's nothing else in your

6:37life going on, which signals to her that

6:39you are not a safe option for her

6:40future. Because a man who's focused on a

6:42woman is a man who's never going to

6:44achieve anything in