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0:00You could have all of the best traits in
0:02the world, be extremely hard working,
0:03hyper intelligent, have great
0:05communication skills, anything,
0:08and none of that matters if you don't
0:10have self-belief.
0:12Right? Everything else is contingent
0:13upon you having self-belief. It's the
0:15foundation of which you build your life,
0:18in which you build whatever it is that
0:20you want to pursue. And so this begs the
0:22question, how does one develop
0:24self-belief
0:25against all reason? Right? The odds are
0:28not in your favor. How could you
0:29actually convince your mind that you're
0:30capable of doing something that no one
0:32in your family, no one from your
0:33hometown, has ever done?
0:36And I'm not going to give you some, you
0:37know, cliché Mr. Beast, "Oh, you're
0:40you're it's crazy until it works." I'm
0:42not going to do any of that. I'm going
0:45to tell you the actual way that you
0:47start to build up your own mentality to
0:50believe in yourself, and it all starts
0:52with this. Your brain needs a story to
0:55operate, okay? And if you don't choose
0:57your own narrative, your environment is
0:59going to choose it for you.
1:01And when I was young, I always remember
1:04thinking about the like my friends'
1:06parents, like all the adults in my
1:07community,
1:09and they were nice people, but they were
1:12pretty much unremarkable in every way. I
1:14don't mean that to sound harsh, it's
1:16just a reality. There was nothing
1:18special about these people, they seemed
1:19to all be copy and paste, my parents
1:21included. There was nothing exceptional,
1:23nothing would jump off the page, right?
1:25And it was because they all had more or
1:27less the exact same life achievements.
1:30You know, they hadn't strived for
1:32greatness, or who knows, maybe they did,
1:34but they just sort of, you know,
1:35eventually gave up on their dreams.
1:38But the entire reason was because they
1:40all let their environment shape their
1:43narrative. Most people, they're
1:46unconsciously delusional, which is, you
1:48know, a negative thing.
1:50They're automatically assuming that
1:52they're going to fail.
1:53What you're trying to do is you're
1:55trying to flip the direction of the
1:56delusion. So, they're delusional,
1:59you want to be delusional, but the
2:01difference is you're going to be
2:02delusional in a positive light. And it
2:04takes the exact same amount of effort to
2:06be delusional negatively as it does
2:09positively. Now, it's more difficult to
2:11have positive delusional thoughts.
2:14However, it it it literally requires the
2:16same amount of mental effort. Now,
2:19how you do this is you have to create
2:22your own narrative. And to do that, you
2:24just simply can't walk the path that
2:27everybody else is doing. Think about
2:28this in the metaphorical sense. If you
2:31walk the same path as everyone else,
2:32you're only going to see the same views
2:34as them. But you don't want to see the
2:35same views as them. You want to see the
2:36more beautiful views as them. So, you
2:38have to take the path that hasn't been
2:40traveled before. You have to create your
2:42own path. You have to, you know, take on
2:44the danger that comes with that. But at
2:46the end of it, you might have the most
2:48beautiful view of the waterfall in the
2:50world because you took that path that
2:52other people simply weren't willing to
2:54do.
2:55And how you do this
2:57is literally number one in the biggest
3:00thing is you have to protect your
3:01energy. And how you protect your energy
3:03is by limiting other people's access to
3:05you.
3:06It is very real the transfer of energy
3:11amongst people. There's a frequency that
3:13there's brain waves that are
3:14communicated amongst others. This is a
3:16very real thing.
3:18If you're looking for a video that's
3:19going to give you all the, you know, the
3:21neuroscience and this and that, you
3:22you've come to the wrong one. I'm I'm
3:24literally just speaking in
3:27from what I've recognized to be
3:29absolutely true, which is that you end
3:33up being like the people that you hang
3:34around. And if nobody is
3:38ambitious or has achieved anything
3:41whatsoever, then they're probably not
3:44worth your time.
3:46To a large extent, you don't you don't
3:47want to be the douchebag that like
3:49thinks they're, you know, is pretentious
3:50and thinks they're
3:51they're better than everyone. Excuse me.
3:53You don't hang out with them. I'm just
3:54saying most of your time, if you can't
3:57find good people to hang out with, needs
3:59to be isolated and needs to be alone.
4:00You need to be consuming content. You
4:04Everything you consume should be
4:05positive and it should be real for
4:07reinforcing your delusional self-belief.
4:10Listening to somebody like Kanye West.
4:12All the the music that you listen to.
4:14I'm not kidding when I say this, but
4:16music vibrates at a certain frequency
4:18and a lot of it is super negative and
4:20it's designed to make you depressed.
4:21It's designed to make you think that the
4:23world is against you.
4:24So, there's Everybody knows what
4:26paranoia is. It's when you think that
4:27the world and everybody is conspiring
4:28against you. There's a thing called
4:30pronoya. Pronoya is the exact opposite.
4:33You think that everybody in the world is
4:34conspiring to help you.
4:36And this is You need to be pronoya
4:39maxing at any type of maxing. You need
4:41to just start thinking optimistically
4:43about the world that you live in. And
4:44it's not going to happen if you're
4:46reading sad books, you're listening to
4:47sad music, you're watching sad sad
4:49movies, you're watching content of
4:51people complain about their life and
4:52play the victim mentality, and you're
4:54hanging around a bunch of friends who
4:55are really just lazy bombs, but then
4:57they blame it on the fact that the world
4:58isn't fair. You need to eliminate all of
5:01these things because it subconsciously
5:04re-
5:06programs your brain.
5:08This is very real. You can ask
5:09neuroscientists like they'll they'll
5:11have a you know, they can give you the
5:12science behind it. I'm just telling you
5:13what I know.
5:14And so, what happens is you you
5:16literally need to start building a
5:20foundation subconsciously where you
5:23start to
5:25think more positively about the world
5:26because that's really what will make you
5:28believe that something is possible,
5:30okay? But that's only the first step.
5:31So, create your own narrative. Protect
5:33your peace. You need to make sure that
5:36you're not just falling into the trap
5:38that everyone else did from where you're
5:40from.
5:42What you need to do is you need to then
5:45detach from current evidence.
5:48Your current reality is basically a
5:50lagging indicator of past actions. If
5:54you rely on evidence, you'll always feel
5:58behind because evidence always exists in
6:00the past. And you need belief that
6:03exists ahead of these results. Now,
6:05evidence is still important. I'll get
6:07into that a little bit later in the
6:08video. But you need
6:11you know, belief is all about the future
6:14and evidence is all about the past and
6:16you can only live in the present moving
6:19forward into the future. So, you know,
6:22you shouldn't over concern yourself with
6:24the past. Once again, I don't want to
6:26this video to say things that you guys
6:27have heard on a million different other
6:28videos.
6:29But the reason that I say that is
6:31because once again, you have to think
6:33about what thoughts are consuming your
6:35mind. You want your mind to be positive,
6:38positive, positive looking toward the
6:40future, right? You don't want it to be
6:43negative, negative, negative and
6:44dwelling on the past. That's That's
6:47never It's never going to work. And
6:49ultimately, it's on you. It's on you to
6:51dictate
6:53what you're putting your energy towards
6:55and what you're thinking about. To a To
6:58some extent, obviously, you can't
6:59control everything, but you get what I'm
7:00saying.
7:02Stop asking for permission. Most people
7:05that you look up to are guessing as
7:07well.
7:08The difference is they move anyway.
7:10Certainty is often just practice
7:14confidence. So, literally last night, I
7:17was on a phone call with a creator.
7:21I'm not going to say his name, but he
7:22has over 4 million followers. Huge, huge
7:25creator in the space. You guys Most of
7:26you guys probably know who this guy is.
7:28And I had about a 45-minute conversation
7:30with him because I'm currently in the
7:32process I am A lot of people have been
7:34asking me to start like a mentorship and
7:36I'm and I want to help people out. And
7:38so, it's a little bit overwhelming and
7:39I've been doing this stuff on, you know,
7:41and to start this business and
7:44he was telling me he does something very
7:46similar to what I want to do and he was
7:47like,
7:48"Nobody knows what they're doing, okay?
7:51There's a There's a quote that I've
7:52heard that says, 'It's idiots all the
7:54way up' and it's completely true. I've
7:57talked to many, many creators that have
8:00millions and millions of followers that
8:01are multi-millionaires before the age of
8:0325.
8:04I'm not just making this up. Like, I
8:06actually have I just never asked for
8:08their permission to to name-drop them,
8:10so I don't feel comfortable doing that,
8:11but
8:13these people are not much different than
8:16me or you. I promise you you are not
8:18different than them. The only difference
8:20is they just took action regardless of
8:21how they felt. So, if they were unsure,
8:23they just tried.
8:25And that's what you'll see. The world is
8:26made up of about 95% 98%
8:30spectators and, you know, 1 to 5%
8:34people that
8:36are in the arena, that are actually
8:38trying, that are doing something with
8:39their life. If you've ever seen the
8:40movie The Secret Life of Walter Mitty,
8:42highly recommend it. I think it's a
8:43great movie about, you know, you need to
8:46experience life and stuff like that, but
8:48there is a quote in this movie that says
8:51there are two types of people in the
8:52world, the amazing and the amazed.
8:56The amazing walk The amazing go out and
8:59and carve their own path and the amazed
9:01watch from afar the amazing
9:05do whatever it is that they do. And then
9:07they wish that they were that person
9:08when in reality they are that person,
9:10they just haven't self-actualized.
9:13They haven't done the work. So,
9:15you just need to go and start.
9:17Right?
9:20Certainty is, as I was saying before,
9:23it's often just practice confidence.
9:27So, it's like I want to appear like I'm
9:28doing this thing, so I'm just going to
9:29do it and then I'll see how it goes and
9:31then to everyone else they're like, "Oh
9:32my gosh,
9:33he was so confident the whole time." No,
9:35no, no.
9:36He wasn't, but he just did it regardless
9:38of how he felt. And then what what
9:40begins to happen, and this is where you
9:42get into sort of the the the confidence
9:45I think matters is
9:47one thing is your brain can't operate
9:49100% off of delusion all the time. It
9:52will start to pull in personal
9:53experiences. This is This all happens
9:56subconsciously. You can't even control
9:57it. But to sort of
10:00it's a defense mechanism of your mind.
10:02You Your mind is trying to learn from
10:04your own mistakes to prevent you from
10:06facing danger. So, it pulls from certain
10:09evidence in your life
10:11to figure out what reality is. Now, you
10:14might be thinking, "Well, all the
10:16evidence in my life has not been
10:19would not give me
10:22more confidence moving forward." Well,
10:24that's completely fine. What you have to
10:25do is you take so many different shots,
10:28kind of like what I was just saying, you
10:29just go out there and you just try. But
10:31you do that over and over and over
10:32again. And yeah, you're going to fail
10:34like maybe you fail 99% of the time. I
10:36used to knock doors for a living.
10:39I was trying to pay for my college. I
10:40was like a
10:41for for a year and a half, I literally
10:43would knock doors
10:45and sell solar or, you know, smart home
10:48what whatever company I was working for
10:49at the time.
10:51And
10:52I would get rejected I think like I
10:54would get rejected by like 200 doors
10:56straight. So, I would have to knock and
10:57talk to around 200 people before I'd get
11:00one deal.
11:01And what I realized is if I started to
11:04if I I could knock 400 doors in a day,
11:06that would be two deals, and that was
11:08well above average what anyone in the
11:09office was doing. And so, I would be
11:11seen as a success. When in reality, I
11:13mean, I'm failing 99% of the time, but
11:16it starts to convince your brain cuz
11:18your brain doesn't just sit there and
11:20dwell on all the shortcomings. What it
11:23it If you choose to, it will do that,
11:25but it can also establish a belief from
11:29a very small hit percentage that just
11:32starts to be repeated over time. It's
11:34like I do social media. It's like yeah,
11:35I can do 100 videos and they might all
11:37flop, but 101st, if that goes viral, and
11:40then I speed speed run my way to the
11:42next like in record 300 more videos. Oh,
11:44I just did four viral videos. All of a
11:46sudden I've convinced myself that I'm
11:47somebody that can record multiple viral
11:49videos. You see how that works?
11:52And so you're going to try over and over
11:53and over again, and it's going to start
11:56landing. And you're going to learn from
11:58your mistakes, and it's going to start
12:00landing at a higher rate. It's going to
12:01be very slow. It's going to take a lot
12:03of time, and you have to get over the
12:05fear of rejection, but if you are truly
12:07relentless with it, it will work, and
12:09you will start to build confidence. And
12:10this this becomes like a a multiplier in
12:13a video game.
12:14Like you just start hitting more often.
12:16And that's when it that's when it gets
12:18fun.
12:19Have you guys ever seen that scene in
12:21Marty Supreme where they ask Marty the
12:24lady ask Marty, she's like, "What are
12:26you going to do if you don't make it?"
12:27He's like, "That doesn't even enter my
12:28consciousness." There's also a scene in
12:32uh what's that? Cars with Lightning
12:34McQueen where
12:36he gets interviewed, "Oh, how did you
12:38know like you could win the Piston Cup?"
12:40Piston Cup, excuse me, my gosh. And he
12:43was like, "Um
12:44I just never thought I couldn't."
12:48And so what you have there is the
12:50absence of doubt. Now, the absence of
12:53doubt can happen one of two ways. Either
12:55one, you got extremely lucky during
12:57childhood and you never got humbled. You
12:59never had a really difficult or
13:00traumatic experience that you went
13:02through that caused you to have some
13:05type of doubt.
13:07Or two,
13:09you
13:11got to a point where you realize that
13:13the
13:15that in order to overcome
13:18the doubt, you just have to try over and
13:21over and over again, build some type of
13:24confidence, and then almost like live on
13:26the island of your confidence. Yeah, you
13:28have a sea of failures, but you can just
13:30you can just live on the island. And so
13:32that will also create get rid of the
13:35doubt if you just choose to live on the
13:36island.
13:37And
13:39if you clicked on this video, I'm going
13:40to assume that you're not in in the
13:41first, you're in the latter.
13:44And
13:45that's like the reality of 99% of us.
13:47Like a very small percentage of people
13:49just go through life without have It's
13:50like the Dunning-Kruger effect. You're
13:52you're almost It's like the paradoxical
13:54truth that the smartest people are the
13:56dumbest people cuz they never have
13:57anything that holds them back. And so
14:00yeah, that's really the reality of it.
14:02You're probably somebody that
14:04experienced a lot of hardships in life.
14:05I'm assuming if you clicked on this
14:07video and if you're still
14:09you know, watching.
14:10And so once again, you have to basically
14:12just start to try a bunch of things and
14:15then once the things start to land, you
14:17clump those things up together and
14:19you're creating a belief in your mind.
14:22And even though you fail a bunch, you
14:24just
14:25focus on the times where things hit. And
14:27you start And then the longer that you
14:29do it, the more you realize that okay,
14:31if I consistently can hit, it's going to
14:33be rare when I hit, but it's still
14:35consistent. Like I can consistently find
14:37the rare moments.
14:39Then all of a sudden, the self-belief is
14:41there
14:42because you've built up that confidence.
14:46But you have to The biggest thing here
14:47is you have to back up what this this
14:50belief that you'll build with action or
14:52it becomes cope. Delusion without work
14:55is just fantasy. Delusion and
14:57consistency is a you know,
14:59self-fulfilling prophecy.
15:03You'll need proof eventually, just not
15:05at the start.
15:07At the start, you're going to do it. You
15:08you just face it with doubt and then you
15:10just wait to get lucky a few times and
15:12then all of a sudden that, you know,
15:13that's when it starts to build.
15:18You don't need to consume every opinion
15:21or possibility, especially from people
15:23who are
15:25you know, who they haven't
15:26done anything with their life. You don't
15:28need to do that. So, build I would call
15:31it selective ignorance. Protect your
15:33belief like it's fragile, especially in
15:36the early stages, because that's the
15:37foundation you're trying to build.
15:39You want to just limit other people's
15:41access. You If you know somebody's a
15:42negative person,
15:44if you know that they lack self-belief
15:47and that they tend to be pessimistic and
15:49not believe just because it's sort of
15:51projection for their own shortcomings,
15:53cut them off. Stay away from them. I
15:55don't care if it's your best friend from
15:56childhood, you need to cut them off.
15:58With family, I'm not going to lie, it's
15:59a little bit harder. My whole family,
16:02I'm not even kidding you guys. I asked
16:04my family this weekend like what their
16:05dreams were and all of them said they
16:07don't have a dream.
16:08I mean, we're not even in the same
16:10stratosphere of mentality.
16:12If you don't have a dream, what do you
16:13have nothing. So, yeah, like I I'm I
16:17empathize with all of you guys that
16:20you know, don't have
16:22these sort of role models around you or
16:24people that you're like, I spend all my
16:25time in this basement alone and I try to
16:27strictly consume content that's going to
16:29reinforce my self-delusional beliefs.
16:32I've said this before, but
16:34you know, if you are not viewed as some
16:38type of egotistical narcissist in some
16:40extent, I like you're you're you're not
16:43at the level of belief that you need to
16:44be at. Truly. I'm not I'm not condoning,
16:48you know,
16:50being a narcissist in that sense, you
16:53know, an unhealthy narcissist or being a
16:55super egotistical or self-centered
16:57person. I don't believe in that. But,
16:59when you just lock in on yourself and
17:01you start to become obsessed with with
17:02your own craft and what you're doing,
17:05yeah, people are going to start to think
17:06that you're super self-absorbed and you
17:09don't really care about others and
17:10that's how it should be
17:11in terms of like how how others perceive
17:13you, cuz you should be so obsessed with
17:15all this stuff.
17:16But,
17:18you have to put effort forward.
17:21Everybody who has put effort forward is
17:23just like you. They're just like me.
17:25We're all the same. We're all humans.
17:27It's idiots all the way up. There's no
17:29reason why you couldn't do why you can't
17:30do it. I used to watch influencers
17:32online
17:34growing up like all of us did and I
17:36always would like
17:38if they had like 100k, I'd be like,
17:41"Dude, that's crazy." Or like not even
17:42100 like if if an influencer had like
17:4440,000 followers on Instagram, I would
17:47thought that was the coolest thing in
17:48the world and I was like, "Man, that's
17:50it's like my dream to do that one day."
17:52And then one day I started.
17:54And then that became my reality because
17:56I literally just started.
18:00So,
18:02accept that you're going to look crazy
18:03for a while. It's going to happen.
18:05There's always that awkward phase in the
18:06beginning where nothing's going to make
18:08sense to others. That's just the truth.
18:11There is a price of doing something
18:13uncommon, which is that you're just
18:16you're going to be hated on mainly
18:18because you're trying to do something
18:19other people wish they had the courage
18:21to try.
18:22People are going to think that you you
18:24look stupid and weird.
18:26If nobody doubts you, your goals are too
18:28small. That's That's how you That's like
18:30how I cope with that. That's how I deal
18:31with that. I'm like, "Yeah, people
18:32better be doubting me because, you know,
18:34it's crazy." Well, guys, when I started
18:37posting on TikTok, you can see
18:40when people view your profile and you
18:42know, at the start when I
18:45hadn't gained any traction yet, I would
18:47see people from my hometown who I didn't
18:48even talk to at all
18:50and I've you know, I've it's been
18:52you know, a while since I've ever been
18:54in my hometown or lived there.
18:56And these are people that I hadn't
18:58talked to and they would be viewing my
18:59pages
19:00or my page, I guess I should say.
19:02And
19:04I knew for a fact they were laughing at
19:06me because it's like it's just this guy
19:07who's recording videos in his parents'
19:09basement who is clearly unsuccessful and
19:13is trying at something and failing at
19:15it. And then guess what? I made another
19:18video, and then I made another one after
19:19that. And then and what I did was I
19:21would put, you know, maximum effort in
19:23for a day, get wake up the next morning,
19:25and I got nothing out of it. And do the
19:27same thing again the next day and got
19:29nothing out of it. And again the next
19:30day and nothing out of it. And again the
19:31next day and nothing out of it. And I
19:32literally did this for months on end
19:34until finally I started to get small
19:36hits.
19:37And
19:39all of a sudden I started to establish a
19:42belief in myself, a confidence that I
19:44could do it, and I rinsed and I repeated
19:47until literally I squeezed every single
19:50drop out of the rag. And at the end of
19:53it I had a full cup of confidence.
19:56And then I just I've been running with
19:58it ever since.
19:59I'm telling you, I promise you guys,
20:01this is exactly how it's done. You are
20:05going to look stupid for a while, but
20:07eff it, it doesn't matter. Keyboard
20:10And I promise you guys,
20:13if you
20:15isolate your mind and really focus on
20:18the task at hand, the goal, and don't
20:19let negativity,
20:22you know, flood into your brain,
20:24you're going to win in the end, I
20:26promise you. Thank you guys for
20:27watching.