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0:05husband Dan. We are going to give you
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1:17bonus audio version. All right, Dan, are
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1:21>> I'm ready to talk about my childhood.
1:23>> Yes, that is the topic for today. It is
1:25we're going to be talking about a few
1:28questions based on our childhoods, but
1:30especially comparing our childhoods to
1:33our children's childhoods.
1:35>> Mhm. Yes. I have heard some other people
1:38say
1:39that kids nowadays are inside more, they
1:43are attached to their screens more.
1:45>> heard me say this.
1:47And I think it is a really interesting
1:50conversation to compare different
1:51generations' childhoods. So, are you
1:54ready for my first question?
1:55>> I'm ready. Let's do it.
1:56>> Dan does know what these questions are.
1:58Yes, it's a mystery. I want you to think
2:00back to when you were 8 years old. Oh.
2:03And I want you
2:04>> It's a good time for me.
2:05>> wonderful students to also think about
2:06when you were 8 years old. Tell me, how
2:09much freedom did you have? For example,
2:12could you go off and ride your bike in
2:13the neighborhood? Did your parents drop
2:15you off at the grandparents house for
2:17the weekend? How much freedom did you
2:19have?
2:19>> First for context, I think that uh but
2:22both of us had kind of unusual
2:23childhoods in some regards, but as far
2:27as freedom at an age 8, I think that we
2:29were pretty I was pretty standard as far
2:32as like the American standard. So, I was
2:35allowed to kind of roam my neighborhood
2:38as long as I was with my brother.
2:39And we could walk to um the playground,
2:43we could walk to a pond by ourselves,
2:45which we did quite a lot. Um my parents
2:48were a little more strict though when it
2:50came to going over to friends' house or
2:52like neighbors' house. Okay. They were
2:54very cautious about
2:57um
2:58the influence of neighbors.
3:01>> especially like movies they'd watch or
3:02video games or whatever. Yeah. And you
3:04know, we had a couple shady characters
3:06in our neighborhood. Not that shady,
3:08well, maybe one or two. It was It was
3:10quite a mix, really, but
3:12>> uh nothing too crazy. It wasn't like
3:13that dangerous, but
3:15>> Yeah, I feel like I experienced
3:16something pretty similar where I could
3:18bike in the neighborhood. We could play
3:20with the neighborhood kids.
3:22But I went to a few to a few sleepovers
3:26at friends' houses. That's a pretty
3:27common American thing. You can spend the
3:29night at a friend's house. Um but that
3:32was pretty much it. We couldn't walk to
3:35any shops because I lived so far away
3:38from shops or our school. We couldn't
3:41walk anywhere.
3:42>> We lived in the suburbs. There's not a
3:43lot of shops that are just walkable.
3:45Yeah, you could just kind of stay in
3:47your neighborhood. Um but we didn't have
3:50We'll talk about technology later. We
3:51didn't have any way to contact our
3:53parents when we were out. So, let's talk
3:55about our kids though. Our kids now, do
3:58they have the same type of freedom that
4:01we had as kids?
4:03Um
4:06kind of, not really. A little bit less,
4:08I'd say.
4:09>> Yeah. Yeah. I feel like um a lot of
4:12parents our age are a little more uh
4:14cautious with their kids, like even more
4:16so, especially like biking somewhere in
4:19the neighborhood or The fear of cars.
4:22>> And I actually, in our neighborhood, we
4:24our kids are out all the time. We have
4:26them running around.
4:27Uh you know, they can walk up run up and
4:29down our road, which is a dead end, so
4:31it's not super dangerous. Mhm. And
4:34they're often the only kids out, so Mhm.
4:37Uh I feel like a lot of kids are inside
4:39more, but I don't know if that's really
4:41necessarily the parents are are scared
4:44to send them out or they don't want to
4:45give them freedom. I think I just think
4:47they're probably preoccupied with other
4:49things. Mhm. If I had to guess.
4:50Possibly. We might talk about what those
4:52other things are later. So, yeah, I I do
4:54feel like our kids are
4:57Uh we give our kids I think a little
4:59more freedom than maybe the average
5:01millennial parent does. Well, it depends
5:04on what you mean by freedom too though,
5:06because we don't let them watch a lot of
5:08TV or they don't have computers or
5:10phones or anything, so
5:11>> guess physical freedom to like, "Oh, you
5:13want to go to the neighbor's house?" And
5:15we know that neighbor. Okay, that's
5:17fine. Are you We let our children be
5:18bored, so that helps them get outside.
5:21Yeah, they they have dug a hole in our
5:24yard that's at least up to my waist. It
5:27is so deep. And what are our kids doing?
5:30I don't know, maybe digging a hole. They
5:32said they're looking for rocks.
5:33>> We have enough space to do this, by the
5:34way. It's not in anybody's walking path.
5:36It's not a safety hazard.
5:38Don't worry. There's only a child buried
5:40in there, that's all.
5:41>> Yeah, I think that the biggest
5:42difference
5:44when I think about it is
5:46our parents and
5:49our children. This kind of two
5:51generations difference. Like when I
5:53think about my parents, they were gone
5:55all day and their parents had no clue
5:57where they were.
5:59>> That is not possible for our kids. Their
6:01parents come from the our our parents
6:03come from the generation that said, "Go
6:05out and I don't want to see you until
6:06sundown." Right. Right. I cannot imagine
6:09an 8-year My 8-year-old, we have an
6:118-year-old. I can't imagine telling him,
6:14"Go out off of our property and I It's
6:17okay.
6:17>> see you.
6:18>> And I don't want to see you
6:19>> Until dinner.
6:19>> for the next 9 hours. I'll finally know
6:22something's wrong when you don't come
6:23home at bedtime. Yes, I think our
6:26generation can't
6:29fathom that lack of control over our
6:32kids' well-being.
6:33>> Or how about concern?
6:34>> Concern? Yeah, we're concerned about
6:36them. Yeah, I think that's This is a
6:37good foundation. The other questions are
6:38very are similar variations of this. Um
6:41I want to ask you a second question.
6:43When you were 8 years old, We're just
6:45doing a lot of 8-year-old stuff, huh?
6:47>> It's all 8-year-old stuff.
6:47>> Oh, okay. It's like peak childhood kind
6:49of.
6:49>> Yeah. You haven't reached puberty yet.
6:51You're not like a little kid. I loved
6:53life at 8. It was so fun.
6:54>> Oh. I can I can remember, you know. Oh.
6:57Yeah. That's really good. Well, let's
6:58talk about it. What was technology like
7:00when you were 8? Think phones. Think
7:03music. Think answering machines. Well,
7:06when I was 8 years old, it was 1995.
7:09Oh, yeah.
7:10>> And so, uh yeah, there was some
7:12technology.
7:13Uh we had TV in our basement and I would
7:16go down and try to watch that sometimes,
7:18but my my mom would always kind of snoop
7:20down there and be like, "What are you
7:21watching? It's time to turn it off."
7:23And uh I was one of those kids who
7:26really really really loved video games
7:28and I wanted video games a lot, but my
7:30mom would not let me. Mhm. My mom or my
7:32dad. But then my mom actually caved a
7:35little bit and she got me a Game Boy.
7:37Mhm. But, you know, you can beat one of
7:39those games in a day usually. Mhm. And
7:42so, It wasn't an endless
7:43>> It's not like stay up till 2:00 a.m.
7:45because I'm playing this game and then
7:46the next day and then all day and then
7:48My mom's also the type she's like, "We
7:50He can play it on a road trip and he can
7:52play it outside. He can take it
7:54anywhere." I mean, maybe you could.
7:56>> of true, I guess.
7:57>> Yeah. But uh Yeah, what about um That's
8:00the technology we had overall. We had
8:03our our
8:05My best friend had a computer, but we
8:07didn't have a I don't think we had a
8:09good computer at that point. I remember
8:11we got a computer when I was in sixth
8:13grade and you could type documents and I
8:16think you could play Frogger. Mhm.
8:19Maybe. I played some fun little games
8:21like that.
8:21>> Very simple.
8:22Um but I had a CD player. I don't think
8:25I was interested in like CDs or music
8:28till I was a teenager though. So at 8
8:31we had a house phone Mhm. with an
8:34answering machine. I don't even know if
8:36we had caller ID at that point.
8:38>> Yeah.
8:38And
8:40I just was not We watched I don't even
8:43remember watching TV as a kid. Really? I
8:45watched some movies. I remember watching
8:47some like classic Disney movies as a
8:49kid, but I don't have any real memories
8:52with
8:53TV. We never We didn't have video games
8:55in my house. There's
8:57Either it was our family or we just had
8:59>> Unless you're into monster trucks or
9:00something. That was in high school.
9:03We had two girls, so we weren't
9:05necessarily like Yeah. the right market
9:08for video games at that age. Mhm. Um but
9:10what about our kids for technology? Like
9:12what kind of technology is in their life
9:14as a norm? Well, there's I mean, there's
9:16kind of a lot, but we use we keep it
9:18under control with them. Mhm. And
9:21they're still young enough
9:23and I think our oldest is he's like
9:25cautious enough. He doesn't like push
9:27the boundaries. Mhm. But you know, they
9:29they think that the TV only has a couple
9:31things on it even though technically you
9:33can It's anything.
9:34>> find anything on there. Endless, yeah.
9:36>> And they don't have a phone and they see
9:39us on our phone. They know that they can
9:41ask us to find information on the phone
9:43instantly. So, that's different. Uh
9:46Yeah, we could call someone on the
9:47phone. We could video call.
9:50>> Yeah, like our kids, especially our
9:532-year-old, if I'm on the phone with
9:55someone and it's not a video call, she
9:57asks to see them. Mhm. Like, oh, I want
10:00to see Sherice, like my sister. And I'm
10:02like, oh, I'm just talking to her on the
10:03phone. She can't She's like, why can't I
10:05do that?
10:06talking to someone without seeing them.
10:08I mean, why would you? It's great to see
10:10someone on a video chat. I think that's
10:11so that's like the best thing about
10:13technology.
10:13>> like we don't give our kids a tablet or
10:15anything. I feel like tablets are the
10:16devil for children,
10:18basically. Here's my old man talking.
10:20Don't give your Don't give your child a
10:22tablet.
10:23>> Yeah, our kids don't don't really know
10:24They maybe they know what a tablet is at
10:26this point. I don't know.
10:28We have one kind of. It's not It's never
10:30out.
10:31>> Yeah, it doesn't work.
10:32>> We don't use it. Well, now now it's
10:34broken as well, so.
10:35>> Yeah. Yeah, they they're around. They
10:37know that I work on the computer. So,
10:40when I do my work, I'm on the computer
10:42and our kids will sit down at the
10:43computer and pretend to do mommy's work.
10:46They
10:46>> they think the computer is for work as
10:48well. Yeah. So, that's good. Yeah, we
10:51have some boundaries about
10:53TV. I think it's going to be a lot
10:54harder as they get older. And I feel
10:57pretty clueless and innocent about what
10:59it's like to have a kid feel peer
11:02pressure about technology. Like right
11:04now our kids don't feel any pressure
11:06about playing certain video games. Like
11:08they've never They played a video game
11:10at their cousin's house, like Mario, at
11:12their cousin's house for a couple days.
11:14But Yeah, and Theo was like this, "I got
11:16to get him to MOVE OVER HERE."
11:19PHYSICALLY MOVING HIS
11:19>> STAND still like this and play. He had
11:21to move his body. It was so innocent and
11:24cute cuz he just
11:25>> Yeah. I don't think our kids aren't
11:27standard in this way anymore at this
11:29point.
11:30>> I think it is possible, though, that
11:31there's I think there's a growing group
11:33of
11:34I'm saying millennial parents because
11:36that's our generation who are
11:39wanting their kids to have less. People
11:41are aware now, like, oh, maybe all this
11:44technology isn't great for children's
11:46brains.
11:46>> Yeah. Huh. Yeah. Who could have thought
11:48of that?
11:49>> Okay, are you ready for a big one?
11:51Yeah, a big one. A boy.
11:53>> question. Okay, tell me. When you were
11:56Well, I'll ask you a question.
11:57>> 8 years old.
11:57>> Do you want a a fun one or a a heavy
12:00one? Let's get serious. Okay. Let's get
12:03serious. Think about when you're 8 years
12:04old. 8 years old, Daniel.
12:07>> How were you disciplined? Oh. Think
12:10about time outs, think about being
12:12grounded, spankings, what Mhm. being
12:15yelled at. What was I was a bit of a
12:18strong-willed child.
12:19>> discipline? I don't think anyone would
12:21be surprised to hear that. Uh
12:25My parents definitely spanked me
12:28up until around that time. Okay. Yeah,
12:32and uh Do you think What What were some
12:34circumstances that
12:36led to that? Like, what did you do?
12:37>> bit of like a traditional uh wait till
12:40your father gets home kind of thing. So,
12:42I would I would get in trouble with my
12:43mom and she would tell my dad and then
12:45my dad would dole out the spankings.
12:47>> Do you remember what you did that
12:49deserved Just probably not listening. I
12:51don't climbing stuff. I mean, I went to
12:54I went to the library one time. I
12:55started climbing the bookcases and I
12:57remember my mom being like, how why What
13:00on earth would compel you to do this?
13:01Mhm.
13:02Yeah. Wait until you get home. Oh, yeah.
13:04Kind of thing. And um
13:07Yeah. But I do remember distinctly one
13:09time my dad was going to spank me and he
13:12could he just like started cracking up.
13:14Really? It was me and my brother
13:15together.
13:17No. And
13:18apparently he pulled down our pants.
13:19We're like bare-butt, you know. And he
13:21was like, he just started laughing and
13:23walked away.
13:26He couldn't He couldn't do it.
13:27>> Well, you know that you've lost it at
13:28that point.
13:29>> We were probably like looking at him
13:30like, "Daddy, what are you going to do
13:32to us?" I mean, that is kind of funny.
13:35Um what Did you ever get grounded as a
13:37child?
13:38>> Yeah, yeah.
13:38>> Or like
13:40in time out as a child, sent to your
13:42room?
13:42>> Sent to my room for sure. Yeah, that was
13:44that was a common discipline tactic.
13:48Taking certain things away. Mhm. Yeah, I
13:50think as a kid it was
13:51>> Game Boys, TVs, you know.
13:53>> Yeah, the good stuff.
13:53>> the technology. Yeah, yeah. That's
13:55interesting.
13:56>> for little boys especially, I feel like.
13:58Um I mean, as a teenager I had that
14:00taken away, too.
14:02Yeah, and I think
14:04I feel like I remember getting really
14:05defiant. I guess probably older though,
14:08like puberty. Mhm. And
14:11you know. It changes as you get older.
14:13>> of big fights with my mom, especially,
14:15so.
14:15>> Yeah, we don't have to reveal all right
14:17now for the entire internet. But I think
14:20when I was
14:20>> But I do I do know that they stopped
14:22spanking at some point. I don't know I
14:23don't know if it was explicit or not.
14:25Yeah, I mean, when you're not a kid
14:26anymore, I think that's pretty typical.
14:28>> but I mean, like for everybody, like all
14:29of us, even my sister, yeah. Yeah, do
14:31you think it was like a a moral
14:33decision?
14:34Or just a
14:35>> told me. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Yeah, I
14:38mean, I got I got spanked as a kid.
14:41For the same stuff, like not listening,
14:43fighting with my sister.
14:45You?
14:47We fought all the time. This one? All
14:50the time, you know.
14:51Siblings. Mhm. And I remember being sent
14:54>> Plus, I mean, your sister, I mean, come
14:55on.
14:57Being sent to my room, that was pretty
14:59typical. I remember hitting my sister a
15:01couple times.
15:03And my mom sent me to my room, and I was
15:06so sad that I hit her, that I snuck out
15:09of my room into her room, and we were
15:11playing with like our Barbie dolls, and
15:13my mom found us, and we were so scared
15:15cuz we were supposed to be in separate
15:17rooms cuz we were in trouble.
15:19And we're like, "Oh, no, she caught us.
15:21I came out of my room and
15:23we were playing peacefully together. Why
15:25would my mom be upset? She came in and
15:27was like,
15:28"Oh, you guys are playing together.
15:29Okay." Yeah, that and I just could not
15:31fathom that that was a good end result.
15:34Like
15:34>> to be punished right now.
15:35>> to be punished. So, I didn't do the
15:38punishment. I should be in trouble,
15:40right? But because we were playing so
15:42happily together,
15:44yeah, I I distinctly remember that
15:46moment. The fear of being in trouble for
15:49not doing the punishment.
15:51>> Mhm. But yeah, how about um let's think
15:53about our kids now.
15:55Um what how are they We dropped the ball
15:58on this. disciplined?
16:00Well, we have a very strict no spanking
16:02policy. Mhm. Yeah, we don't spank our
16:04kids.
16:05>> But then it's like, now what do we do?
16:07Yeah, I think I feel like our generation
16:09is stuck in the middle where like a lot
16:11of a lot of science has come out and
16:13said hitting and spanking your kids is
16:17is psychologically bad for them. It is
16:20not actually going to help help them.
16:23So, our generation hears that and says,
16:25"Okay, we're not going to spank."
16:27But there's not enough
16:29experience to tell us what else is
16:31effective.
16:32>> pendulum swung too far. Like a lot of
16:34parents our age as well,
16:36uh they would do I would just call them
16:38permissive parents. I don't know exactly
16:41what they
16:41>> in all countries, right?
16:42>> know exactly what they would call it,
16:44but you know, their kids just walk all
16:45over them and they're rude all the time
16:47and they get what they want. And like
16:49who's the boss Yeah. Yeah, so
16:52it swung from one far side with like
16:55maybe our grandparents were very very
16:57strict authoritarian parents and then we
17:00our generation has swung to be much more
17:03permissive.
17:04>> hear you out, child. You want to tell me
17:06>> all your feelings, but then when you're
17:08rude, what do I do? So, for us
17:11our kids have time outs if they do
17:13something wrong. If they say something
17:16rude, if they hit someone, they have to
17:18go sit in a chair for 1 minute, 3
17:21minutes, 5 minutes, whatever it is,
17:22quiet, calm.
17:25Um that has worked really well.
17:27Even for our 2-year-old, sometimes she
17:29>> It's easier when you start them young,
17:31for
17:31>> Yeah, sometimes she skips over to the
17:32chair like, "Okay, I'm ready." Well,
17:35she's also like, "Yeah, I hit Freddy.
17:39Yeah, I did."
17:40Yeah, but even for Freddy, for our
17:425-year-old, um he has adapted to that
17:44really well.
17:45>> He's the reason that we started the
17:47rules
17:47>> Yes. in the first place. That was
17:50you as a child, maybe.
17:51>> middle children.
17:52>> Middle, middle children.
17:53>> Yeah.
17:54But for our oldest, it's a little bit
17:55trickier, I think when you're as you get
17:58older, and I'm sure we'll figure this
17:59out too, like or we'll find this out as
18:01our kids get older,
18:03discipline has to change.
18:05Like what is serious for him, for our
18:078-year-old,
18:08might be more oh, you're like more
18:11towards the you're grounded side, like a
18:13long-term consequence. This weekend, you
18:15cannot play with your friends. You did
18:17something
18:18bad enough that this weekend you're not
18:20allowed to play with your friends, we
18:22have to stay home.
18:23Because those are more like grown-up
18:25consequences kind of, so we're learning,
18:27we're trying to figure it out.
18:29>> say we were a bit late to the scene on
18:31some of this because we started out a
18:33little more like
18:36uh Just explain what the problem is, and
18:38then they'll naturally stop.
18:39>> we were very resistant to discipline
18:42because it feels like an infringement
18:44upon your children, but now I'm like
18:47kids are looking for a leader and you
18:49have to be the parent, like who's who's
18:51supposed to be in charge in this
18:53situation. Yeah.
18:54>> And if you're if you're not in charge,
18:55the kid is going to try to be in charge.
18:57>> Yeah, I have a feeling that when our
18:58kids are adults, they're going to be
19:01more in the middle, like they're going
19:02to have a better picture. Maybe. It I
19:06feel like generations tend to go like
19:07that though, where it's like
19:09>> swinging back and forth.
19:10>> Yeah, the pendulum has gone from here to
19:11here, and then they will see the
19:14problems and kind of adjust a little bit
19:17more. Hopefully, right? We'll see. So,
19:19let us know for you, what is kind of
19:21normal
19:22punishment in your household if your
19:25kids or maybe when you were a child,
19:27what what happened in your house? Tell
19:29us.
19:30>> there been any general loosening in your
19:32society as well? Like I think in
19:34America, maybe Europe too, I don't know.
19:36Just like yeah, just a way less strict.
19:39>> Okay, we have two lightning round
19:41questions. Very quick. Are you ready?
19:44Tell me, what were your favorite games
19:46as a kid? Games activities. Game
19:49Things to do. Tag. Tag. Yeah, you're it.
19:53Tag you're it. Cool.
19:55>> other games? I don't know. Uh Did you
19:57play on a trampoline?
19:58>> trampoline, sure. Oh, yeah, like
20:00dodgeball on the trampoline, that was
20:01fun. Okay. Yeah.
20:03>> Active, physical stuff. Man, we did all
20:04kinds of insane games like
20:06alligator where you would took two
20:07mattresses and we jumped on the
20:09mattresses and smashed the people inside
20:11the mouth.
20:12>> imagine doing that.
20:13>> Yeah.
20:13>> My
20:14>> Why? Because it was so fun. The friends
20:16that I hung out with
20:19I if I knew you as a kid, I would never
20:21have played with you.
20:22>> We wouldn't have been friends.
20:23>> scared to get on a No. No.
20:25I was scared to
20:26>> I would have flirted with you though. As
20:27an 8-year-old?
20:28>> Yes.
20:30I was scared to get on a trampoline
20:31because I didn't like that kind of
20:32physical like
20:35pushing or bumping. Like that was not
20:37what I liked. So, my favorite activities
20:39as a kid were
20:41crafts. We did a lot of crafts, sewing
20:44things, cutting little things.
20:45>> not a game. Built That's an activity.
20:48Like what did you occupy your time with?
20:50And the next thing we loved to do was
20:53just dig outside. Kind of like what our
20:55kids do, but like
20:58make
21:00little things with sticks and dirt and
21:03all of that.
21:04>> Yeah, did I ever tell you about the
21:05Indiana Jones game? No. That's where my
21:07brother pulled us in the wagon and
21:09somebody pushed a barrel behind us like
21:11the ball that was rolling after you and
21:13other people threw like balls and hard
21:15things at you. While you're in the
21:16>> While you're in the wagon, yeah. Are you
21:17just free free going down the hill or is
21:19your brother
21:20>> brother's pulling us through like a
21:21course. Oh my gosh. Yeah. That is
21:25totally not what There was It was a
21:29four boys, two girls situation and only
21:32one girl played with us. Yeah, that
21:34would not have been me.
21:36>> Yeah. That would not have been me. Okay,
21:37we have another quick lightning round
21:38question. When you were a kid, what
21:41responsibilities
21:42did you have or chores did you have as a
21:44kid?
21:45List like two or three.
21:47>> Oh.
21:49My parents were they
21:51My dad would always shake his head about
21:53this now and be like, "We didn't give
21:54you enough chores."
21:55>> Mhm. We had a chore chart that lasted
21:57like a month. Mhm. But there was no
21:59lasting
22:01>> Like it was my job to feed the cats.
22:04No. Yeah? Not really. It Nothing really
22:07stuck. I think my mom struggled with
22:10getting it to stick and keeping it up.
22:11>> is hard. Yeah.
22:12>> We know. Oh, yeah, we know.
22:14I mean, when when I was a kid, we had a
22:16we had a chore chart, which is pretty
22:18typical.
22:18>> we would do It was the kind of thing
22:20where Saturday was doing chores and then
22:22you just get assigned something. Yeah, I
22:24think
22:25we
22:26The things that stuck were just little
22:28things and I don't think they really
22:29helped the family that much. Like after
22:32dinner, it was my job to wipe down the
22:34table.
22:35Okay, that's so small. It's not really a
22:37responsibility and at least from my
22:40experience as a parent, it takes more
22:42work
22:44to have your child do it than for you to
22:47do it. So, for you to have your child
22:49take that responsibility,
22:52it's not because it makes it a life
22:54easier for you.
22:55>> for you. It's because you're like
22:57literally trying to instill in them a
22:59skill, but it's going to take
23:016 months
23:03versus you doing it really quick. So I
23:06think that's something that we're
23:07starting to play around with. Like the
23:09kids feed the cats, they're starting
23:10>> Got them to feed the cats.
23:11>> the chicken eggs. They of course have to
23:13clean up their own stuff. Like they
23:14always clean up
23:16their own their room, their books, their
23:19toys. Like that's important. Um
23:25You know, they have to put their shoes
23:26back. Those little things that are
23:28helpful, especially when there's three
23:30kids.
23:31>> Yeah, it's not super regimented though.
23:33It's kind of similar to how we were, at
23:35least I was.
23:36>> Yeah. Yeah, I think in the summer though
23:39uh Theo mows our grass. Oh yeah, he
23:41likes doing that.
23:42>> Freddy cleans up
23:43>> It's a really light lawnmower, by the
23:44way.
23:45>> Yeah, yeah, it's not too hard.
23:46Freddy kind of cleans up the lawn before
23:49we do it. So they have some chores, but
23:50it's definitely different than the what
23:52our grandparents did. I think that's the
23:54biggest gap. Like our grandparents
23:57had very strict
23:59chores. They were required to do, they
24:01were required our parents to do. Like
24:03that was
24:04>> a lot more. Yeah, that was a much
24:06different life.
24:07>> My parents, I mean, my dad always said
24:09he would always help his mom wash dishes
24:11and they'd set the table, and they never
24:14were asked to, they just did it is how
24:16he would explain it.
24:18>> Mhm. Yeah, very different different
24:19life.
24:19>> Different expectations, I think. Oh,
24:21they also weren't allowed to talk at the
24:23dinner table before mom their mom and
24:24dad spoke. Very interesting.
24:28Yeah, I could see that now. Might be
24:30kind of nice.
24:31Yeah, yeah, it's so when your parent
24:33when your dad sat down at the table as a
24:35child, they had to be silent until the
24:38parents talked together. Like
24:41I I think like, oh, it'd be nice if I
24:43sat down at the table and me and Dan
24:44could talk and the kids were quiet and
24:46they listened, but how do you enforce
24:48that?
24:48>> Yeah, what was their trick? Like how do
24:50you get that to happen? That is the
24:52mystery. If you have any ideas, let me
24:55know. It's not my life goal to have this
24:56happen, but it is I think it's just a
24:59generational difference. Like a very
25:01different
25:03My grandpa could give you a stare that
25:04could make you want to shut up.
25:06A lot more than I have. A lot more than
25:07I have. So. Yeah, we're too nice.
25:11Okay, well, this was our conversation
25:13about childhood. Thank you so much for
25:15joining us. Thank you, Dan. Oh, you're
25:17welcome. For bearing all for our
25:18students. I hope that this real-life,
25:20not AI conversation has enriched your
25:23life. Thanks for not being a robot.
25:25>> You're welcome.
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25:56>> You're welcome. Thank you so much for
25:57joining us. We'll see you the next time.
25:59Bye. But wait, do you want more? I
26:02recommend watching this video next,
26:04where Dan and I have a conversation
26:06about education. In particular, you will
26:09see why Dan did not go to school until
26:12he was a teenager. What?
26:16And you'll learn a lot about the
26:17American education system and how it
26:19might be different from your country.
26:20I'll see you there.