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0:00The worst girls to get with are church

0:01girls. The worst women that you'll ever

0:03date is women who are all about going to

0:06church.

0:07I'll never forget I was 23. I was seeing

0:09this girl, I think she was about 24. She

0:11was like a year older than me.

0:13She would come over all the time on

0:14Saturday nights.

0:16Just get down to the dirty. Oh, yeah,

0:18everything you could imagine. Then she'd

0:20wake up Sunday morning and say, "Time

0:22for church." You ask her what she's

0:24doing, she'd tell her all of her friends

0:25churching. Yep.

0:28That's what she was doing. You know why

0:29all these women need to go to this

0:31church so much is because they're doing

0:32so much sinning.

0:34The worst women that you'll ever date is

0:37women who constantly try to

0:39give this illusion to the whole world

0:41that they're some good girl church girl.

0:44What I found about women is that the

0:46mask that they give to the world is

0:49usually to like give a false or opposite

0:53representation of what's going on on the

0:55inside in their mind and in their

0:56emotions.

0:58That's what I found. The women who

1:00constantly portray this

1:02"Oh, I'm a good girl. You can take me

1:04seriously. I'm in the church. Oh, I pray

1:07to God. God is first in my life." All

1:09this, yeah. These are a lot of times

1:11women These women a lot of times, right?

1:14They will gut you.

1:16They will twist that knife so hard. She

1:18will show no remorse. She'll show no

1:20remorse. These are the women who a lot

1:22of times they'll cheat the most. They'll

1:24have no remorse. You'll be dating them

1:26for 6 months and she'll just ghost you.

1:29She'll just ghost you. Out of nowhere.

1:31No remorse, no empathy. Operates

1:34completely off of emotions and a lot of

1:36times they're meaner and more deceptive

1:39than just even women sometimes you'll

1:41meet out at a bar.

1:43That's the truth. I can even tell you

1:45this. A lot of times women that

1:47outwardly portray this like party girl

1:49vibe, sometimes they'll be a better

1:51woman to date because internally their

1:53world is opposite compared to what

1:54they're actually representing to the

1:56world. Internally, they want that

1:58relationship so bad and she ends up

2:00being the most loyal, sweetest

2:01sweetheart you could ever ask for.

2:03You have to watch out for church women.

2:05They will twist that knife so damn hard

2:08you'll be sitting there crying for

2:09months. What I find most interesting

2:12about modern women today, okay,

2:15it's not anything to do with social

2:17media or dating apps or any of this,

2:19it's how

2:21majority of modern women

2:24are attracted to and gravitate towards

2:28men

2:29who have zero base survival skills.

2:34As a man today, you do not need to know

2:37how to hunt

2:40or fish

2:41or build anything

2:43or work with your hands or use a tool.

2:47You don't need to do anything. You don't

2:50need to know how to do anything. Like

2:52majority of guys these days, what is

2:54absolutely wild to me is that you're

2:56telling me that you can just lose some

2:58weight and be in a calorie deficit,

3:01okay, get a couple cool necklaces and a

3:04tattoo and look good and take some

3:07pretty pictures on Instagram and that's

3:09good enough to not only attract a woman

3:13but get majority of women

3:15to fall in love with you

3:17despite providing zero base skills

3:22despite providing zero base masculinity,

3:25strength, and skills

3:28and not having any real-world or

3:30real-life

3:33capability beyond pixels on a screen and

3:36making money digitally.

3:38I think that that is absolutely wild. I

3:41don't think we've ever seen a time in

3:43history where that was the case

3:46where a man essentially

3:50has to know zero In fact, I would even

3:53say this,

3:55where the men who know how to do things

4:00are actually rewarded less when it comes

4:03to dating than men who know how to do

4:06absolutely nothing at all.

4:09This is like the biggest shift I have

4:11ever seen where as a man, actually, the

4:13less you know how to do anything and the

4:16stupider you are, the more you're able

4:19to attract a beautiful

4:21a woman or mate or like you're actually

4:24able to like the fact Do you Do you

4:26understand this? Do you think your

4:27grandparents or your great-grandparents

4:30knew anything about flirting or rizz

4:33or the words were the main benefit of

4:36getting the emotion? No, they're making

4:38sure that there was land to um

4:41grow food on and survival. Like, it's

4:44just absolutely wild to me to see this.

4:47In most relationships, the man is along

4:50for her ride. You can say men are the

4:52leaders all you want, but in modern

4:54relationships, the man is along for her

4:56ride. This is what you got to

4:58understand, and here's why. This is one

4:59thing that I've realized about

5:01dating and relationships over the past

5:0410 years. Women typically do not do

5:06anything that they do not want to do.

5:09Okay? However, men typically do a lot of

5:12things that they don't want to do. And

5:15I'm talking minute for minute, hour for

5:16hour, second for second, where you put

5:18your time. If she says, "Do you want to

5:21go bike riding with me?" he says yes. If

5:23she says, "Babe, we should go buy

5:25rollerblades and let's go

5:27rollerblading," he goes and buys them

5:29and they go rollerblading. If she says,

5:31"Babe, I really want to go on a trip. I

5:33want to go on a vacation," he says,

5:34"Let's book it." If she says, "I want to

5:36go to this restaurant," guess what

5:38happens? He goes there.

5:40Because men are simple, men like their

5:42peace, and men just go along with things

5:44because we don't want chaos. However, if

5:47you take a look at most relationships,

5:49if that man says to that woman, "Hey,

5:51babe, let's go to this restaurant

5:52tonight." He's typically going to get a

5:55"I don't feel like it."

5:56"Not in the mood.

5:58You can go there with your friends." And

6:00she exits.

6:01What I can tell you is women are very,

6:03very, very, very, very, very, very,

6:05very, very good at putting themselves

6:07first. And the more you emulate that

6:10behavior as a man, you get ahead. And

6:12what you're going to notice is women

6:14actually will start to cooperate more

6:16with you. She will actually be along for

6:18your ride. And deep down, this is what

6:20she actually wants. This is what she

6:21actually craves. Most men just don't

6:24have the frame or the backbone to walk

6:26away and say, "No, I'm going to go do

6:28this anyways."

6:29If women don't like you, there is likely

6:32a deficiency in either your looks, your

6:34money, your status, your confidence,

6:36your charisma, or your resource

6:38capability, and your competency.

6:40So,

6:42what happens is that

6:44when a guy gets dumped, or when a guy

6:46gets cheated on, or when a guy like, you

6:48know, let's say every day he just wakes

6:49up and he has no options, and he's

6:51completely single, he constantly looks

6:53at the symptom-level problem.

6:55Okay, the symptom-level problem would be

6:57like, "I'm not attractive, or I'm not

7:00attracting the women that I want, or I

7:03don't have any options.

7:05How do I obtain an option, or how do I

7:08get an option? Right? How do I start

7:10having interest?" That's the wrong

7:11question to ask. That's the symptom

7:13level. The root-level question to ask

7:15would be, "How do I actually increase my

7:17attractiveness, so women start choosing

7:20me first? How do I increase my own

7:22attractiveness, so that way a woman

7:24wants to be with me? How do I increase

7:26my own attractiveness, so that way I

7:28have an abundance of options, and I'm

7:30not coming from a place of scarcity?

7:32How do I make sure that I have enough

7:34uh

7:35looks or even sex appeal in order to

7:38generate real desire? If you start

7:41asking those level of questions, you can

7:44typically see gaps where you can

7:46improve. If you start filling in those

7:48gaps one small percentage at a time,

7:51you start to become

7:53the total package that a woman would be

7:55looking for. Okay? Because it's like you

7:58start to actually develop. You start to

8:01be irreplaceable as a man. You start to

8:03actually like you put in that 5 10 years

8:05of work

8:06when every other guy just went home and

8:08turned on the TV.

8:10And she might not be able to see that

8:12when you're a month in,

8:14but when you're 6 months into living

8:16that way, 18 months into living that

8:17way, years into living that way, you

8:19become so rock solid, she looks at you

8:21and she goes, "There is no way in hell I

8:23can replace this guy." And that is when

8:26you start to have options. If you want

8:28to learn and understand and master the

8:29language of women, check out what I made

8:30for you. It's in my bio. It's in my

8:31description. I have an N10 process you

8:33can just copy paste into your dating

8:34life and go.

8:36If you worked really hard through all of

8:38your 20s and 30s, don't beat yourself up

8:41in your 40s and 50s if you sit there and

8:43dwell and tell yourself, "Oh, I wish I

8:45would have had more friends and done

8:46more personal hobbies." Meanwhile, if

8:49you're a dude, because that's what

8:50usually happens, okay? Meanwhile, if

8:52you're a dude um in your 20s and 30s and

8:54all you did was party and hang out,

8:56don't dwell that you weren't one of the

8:58guys that wish you would have grinded in

9:00your 20s and 30s and focused on, you

9:02know, business because you're not where

9:04you want to be in your 40s or 50s. What

9:07I've kind of noticed is that no matter

9:08who you talk to, okay?

9:12People always think the grass is greener

9:13on the other side. Looking back, people

9:16always think they wish they would have

9:17done something different. They wish they

9:19would have

9:20done something different in their youth

9:21or their energy years, like in their 20s

9:23and 30s when they had the most energy.

9:25And what I've found is all the business

9:27owners who got really rich and grinded,

9:30those dudes wish that they would have

9:32partied more and hung out and laid back.

9:35And then all the dudes that laid back

9:37and partied more in their future,

9:40they're not happy with their financial

9:41situation and they wish that they would

9:43have worked harder. What I'm telling you

9:44is you'll probably never be happy, okay?

9:46Because that's how people are. People

9:48always think the grass is greener.

9:49People always think that they should

9:50have done something different. People

9:52always think that they chose the wrong

9:53hobby or the wrong passion or the wrong

9:56business or the wrong career. If you

9:58hear people say stuff like, "Oh, you

10:00know, I gave my best years to, you know,

10:02a boss at work who didn't value me."

10:04It's like, not really. Your boss

10:06probably wasn't even the owner. The boss

10:08like just showed up and did what she

10:10what he was supposed to do as well.

10:12Right? So, it's like everybody's just

10:13trying to actually live. Everybody's

10:15trying to get by. Everybody's trying to

10:16have fun in the meantime. And it's like,

10:19don't be too hard on yourself, right?

10:22If you're not where you want to be.

10:24Because people always think the grass is

10:25greener. People always think they should

10:26have done something different. And

10:27that's kind of just how humans are is

10:29you always think that when it comes to

10:30choice, there could have been something

10:33better. But you'll never know. And if

10:35you think like that, you'll never be

10:36happy. Love the life that you have. Love

10:39each minute that you have. Love each

10:40hour that you have and be just happy

10:42where you're at, okay?

10:45And things get a lot less stressful.

10:47Before you can learn how to flirt with a

10:50woman or have rizz with a woman, you

10:52have to master basic what I would call

10:56high testosterone communication, okay?

11:00High T communication means that you're

11:02able to walk up and introduce yourself

11:04even if you're scared, even if you're

11:06nervous, even if you are scared to get

11:08rejected, even if you think you're going

11:10to get rejected, you are going to

11:12actually put yourself out there and meet

11:14new people. You're going to introduce

11:16yourself. You're going to say, "Hi, my

11:18name is." and then you're going to

11:19introduce yourself and you're going to

11:21ask if she'd like to go out with you

11:22sometime.

11:23You're going to ask if she'd like to

11:24switch numbers and go out sometime.

11:26You're going to get used to doing that.

11:28You're not going to learn any game.

11:29You're not going to learn any flirting.

11:31You're going to master step one, which

11:33is actually getting to the point of

11:35realizing that like you can overcome

11:38your fears. Okay?

11:41The next thing you have to do is you

11:42have to understand that there is no

11:44right or wrong way

11:46to do this. There is only people's

11:48opinions. Let me give you an example.

11:52There's a really hot woman you want to

11:53talk to at your

11:54uh wherever you're at, you know,

11:56shopping mall or maybe it's a woman you

11:58see at the gym all the time. Okay? And

12:00let's say you've or maybe it's a coffee

12:01shop. You see the same woman all the

12:03time, right?

12:04People will say something like, "Oh, you

12:05can't do that cuz then if she rejects

12:07you, you're not going to want to go

12:08there anymore."

12:09Not necessarily.

12:11If you have a little bit of charm to

12:13you, you can walk up and you say, "Hey,

12:14I've seen you in here before. I've never

12:15met you before.

12:17I always thought you were real cute. You

12:19want to go out sometime?"

12:21You think that's going to make it

12:22awkward? You could still show up to that

12:23coffee shop and nothing's going to

12:25happen.

12:26Nothing's going to happen. You can still

12:27order your latte.

12:29Okay?

12:30This is pretty simple. When you start to

12:32overcome your fears, what happens is now

12:34you learn the second layer. And later on

12:37then down the down the road, you can now

12:39learn how to flirt, how to have better

12:41charisma, how to actually have more

12:42game, how to do things better. But you

12:44got to really just start at step one.

12:46And step one is, "Hey, I can do this."

12:49If you want to learn, understand, and

12:50master the language of women, check out

12:51what I made for you. It's in my bio.

12:52It's in my description. I have an N10

12:54process you can copy-paste into your

12:56dating life. Listen, if you have no

12:58women in your dating life right now,

13:00like you completely don't have any

13:01dates, you're gaining no attraction, you

13:03don't have a girlfriend, you need to

13:05make the conscious decision to become as

13:09attractive as possible. If you have any

13:11sugar or processed junk in your house

13:15that's causing you to spill over into a

13:17calorie surplus, get rid of it. Make the

13:19commitment to yourself to get lean.

13:22If you constantly are going out and

13:24drinking

13:25and this is having negative effects on

13:27your health, your work productivity.

13:29Make the conscious decision to get rid

13:31of that stuff. If you're smoking things

13:33you shouldn't be smoking, if you're

13:34constantly playing video games, if

13:35you're watching spectator sports, and

13:37what you notice is month by month, year

13:39by year, your income doesn't go up, your

13:41purpose doesn't go up, your business

13:43isn't growing, you're not doing anything

13:45in your life to propel yourself to

13:47become the best,

13:48what are you actually doing? Make the

13:50conscious decision to start to change.

13:53Make the conscious decision to start to

13:55become the best version of yourself.

13:56Make the conscious decision to become as

13:58attractive as possible.

14:01Do you know what happens to your life

14:02when you do these things? Good things

14:04stack up.

14:06You start to look better, you look

14:07leaner. All of a sudden when you talk,

14:08when you communicate, people take you

14:10more seriously.

14:11Your words have more meaning and carry

14:13more weight. People can tell you're in

14:15shape, people respect you.

14:17All of a sudden you start making more

14:18money, and people know that you're more

14:20competent. All of a sudden you have a

14:22better life for yourself, and people go,

14:24"Wow, this guy's a winner."

14:26Whether you like him or whether you hate

14:28him, looks like he's a winner. Keep

14:30pushing forward. You got to keep pushing

14:32forward. You have to make the conscious

14:34decision and the conscious commitment to

14:36become as attractive as possible.

14:37Listen, dating in some way, shape, or

14:39form is a competition. Dating is a

14:41competition.

14:43Like,

14:44call it what you want. Call it survival

14:46of the fittest, call it natural

14:47selection, call it hypergamy.

14:50Everybody wants the most attractive mate

14:52that they can

14:53get in that relationship, that they can

14:55actually

14:56obtain in that relationship. They want

14:58the most attractive mate possible.

15:00Well, if you can't even obtain a date,

15:03you can't even get a date, what are you

15:04actually doing?

15:06You have to make conscious, small, micro

15:08decisions every single day that forms

15:10habits and routines to a healthy, fit,

15:13attractive lifestyle. These game gurus

15:16and these rizz guys constantly out on

15:17the street, if you see these guys and

15:19they're putting all their time into

15:20their social skills and their

15:22communication. It's like, dude, do you

15:23understand that when the

15:26dude that she thinks is hot communicates

15:28with her, he can just say, "Hey, you

15:29want to go out sometime?" and she says,

15:30"Yes."

15:31If you're seeing these guys where their

15:33lifestyle is completely lost in this

15:35party and club scene, this is not the

15:37type of life that you want. You want to

15:39be able to actually gain attraction by

15:42being a healthy, [clears throat] strong

15:44human being. If you want to learn,

15:46understand, and master the language of

15:47women, check out what I made for you.

15:48It's in my bio, it's in my description.

15:50I have an N10 process you can copy paste

15:52into your dating life and go.

15:54If she thinks you're attractive enough,

15:56you don't have to conform to anything.

15:58You could go set up all your fishing

16:00equipment that you want to work on in

16:02the living room.

16:04Most guys demote themselves to a man

16:06cave. You're telling me if you're paying

16:08the mortgage and you're working and

16:10you're doing all the stuff to provide a

16:12lifestyle for yourself, and then a lot

16:14of times the woman you're with just gets

16:15to come in and just live there for free.

16:17How is it that over 3, 4, 5, 6, 10

16:20years, 20 years, you get all the way

16:22demoted to a man cave? Or it's like the

16:24whole house is just only her

16:25decorations. The whole house is only her

16:28decorations, the whole house is only her

16:29pictures, and you literally have one

16:32small space in the garage for um

16:36your hunting equipment and your fishing

16:37equipment.

16:39It's like you don't even have an office.

16:40Here's what you got to understand, if

16:42you're I don't even want to use the word

16:43high value enough. If she thinks you're

16:45attractive enough, okay? And you've

16:47displayed that you have enough options

16:49to walk away, you don't have to conform

16:51to anything. Literally nothing. She can

16:54come to you and she can say, "I really

16:55want to get a cat.

16:57There's a new Siamese cat. Can we get

16:59one?"

17:00You say, "No."

17:02She says, "Aw, that's mean."

17:04You say, "Okay, well, you can find a

17:05different boyfriend."

17:07You don't have to conform to anything.

17:10Guys who make concessions and believe in

17:12this like cooperation level mindset of

17:16like it's give and take and I'm going to

17:18be flexible. No, you don't have to do

17:20any of that. You've been told your whole

17:22life you have to do that, but here's

17:23what happens when you actually live by

17:25that mindset of like, being a good,

17:27cooperative, whatever.

17:30She ends up respecting you less.

17:32You seem like you don't have the

17:34strength to say no when you don't want

17:36something.

17:38And then on top of that, a lot of times

17:39she'll just end up leaving or cheating

17:40anyways after you said yes to all this

17:42stuff.

17:43So, if you look at the amount of stuff

17:45that most guys, a lot of times, put up

17:47with that they don't want to put up

17:49with. Do you know how many times that

17:51guys will put up with all of this stuff,

17:53or they'll start conforming and bending

17:55their entire world to like suit her, or

17:58to like please her? This makes

17:59absolutely no sense. If she thinks

18:01you're attractive enough, she will start

18:03to actually adapt her lifestyle to

18:05yours. And if you have it the other way

18:07around, she will like you a whole lot

18:09less. If you want to learn, understand,

18:11and master the language of women, check

18:13out what I made for you. It's in my bio,

18:15it's in my description. You'll love it.

18:17I put together amazing processes to

18:19actually help you in your dating life so

18:20you can solve these problems once and

18:22for all.

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