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Masculine Men do not fear rejection from women - how to WIN in 2026 when modern men are passive

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0:00Okay, so today I'm making this video

0:01because there's a very big difference in

0:04life between getting results and feeling

0:07like you're getting results just because

0:09you've learned more information.

0:11Listen close, okay? If you're learning

0:14more information, sure, you might have

0:16learned something, but that doesn't

0:17actually mean you're getting more

0:18results. In real life, you only get

0:20results when you go out in the real

0:21world and you take action. So, this

0:23video is to help you actually get real

0:25results. Real results would be like,

0:27"Hey Casey, I got a girlfriend." "Hey

0:30Casey, um you know, I'm now in my 30s

0:33and I'm finally having a family." You

0:35know, whatever the case may be. "Hey

0:37Casey, I'm finally able to maintain

0:38interest level in my relationship."

0:41That's a real result. Okay, but just

0:43sitting watching videos and learning is

0:45not a result. That's just learning. So,

0:50this video I want you to understand

0:51something. Masculine men do not fear

0:53rejection from women.

0:56They just don't.

0:58A masculine man could get rejected by a

1:00woman and that does not hurt his

1:01self-esteem or his confidence at all.

1:05He'll just think, uh you know,

1:08"I'm not her type." You know, or maybe

1:09she um has somebody else in mind at this

1:12moment in her life, right? Timing is a

1:14big part of this. So, to all the guys

1:17out there who are sitting there waiting,

1:21okay, and hoping that one day your

1:22life's going to change, your life

1:24doesn't change until you finally make a

1:26commitment to yourself to go out in the

1:28real world and take action. So,

1:31the reason why I want to tell you this

1:32is because

1:34I know guys personally

1:36who are super good-looking, okay, have

1:39influencer-level status or fame, okay?

1:43And when I say influencer-level status

1:45or fame, I'm not just talking about

1:46like, "Oh, you know, um they made a few

1:49videos or something." No, I know dudes

1:51who actually like ace the female lens of

1:54attraction

1:56and have like real influencer fame to

1:59the point where they have like women

2:01direct messaging them first constantly.

2:03I know guys like this over the years,

2:05okay?

2:07And

2:08these same guys over the years that I've

2:10met, okay, or guys who fit this

2:12criteria, maybe they're really tall,

2:14maybe they're really rich, maybe they're

2:15really good looking, maybe they have

2:16influencer status, or guys who fit this

2:19exact category, okay, have told me

2:23these things over the years. They've

2:24said one of two things or sometimes a

2:26combination. Maybe they've said

2:28something along the lines of, "Yeah,

2:29man, um

2:31you know, online dating apps this week,

2:33it's just been, you know, brutal. I've

2:34already been flaked on twice, you know,

2:36or something along those lines." Or

2:38number two,

2:40"Hey, man, uh this woman I've been

2:42seeing is pulling away from me, or she

2:44doesn't want to be in a relationship

2:46anymore."

2:47And I'm sitting there going, "Whoa.

2:49Okay, so this can happen to anybody at

2:52any stage in their life, no matter how

2:54rich, famous, or successful."

2:56Because what you have to understand is

2:58that no matter how attractive you are as

3:00a man, okay, there's variables when it

3:03comes to if things will work out in that

3:06dynamic or in that relationship or not.

3:07The very first is timing, okay? Timing

3:10is super important. If you met her at a

3:13time in her life where she wants to

3:15date, or maybe she got out of a

3:17relationship a couple months ago and she

3:19wants a fresh start with somebody new,

3:21okay, perfect. That's good timing. Now,

3:23maybe you meet a woman, okay, and she

3:25thinks you're very attractive, but maybe

3:26she's very loyal or committed to her

3:28boyfriend or husband at the time or

3:30whatever. Bad timing, even if she likes

3:33you, okay? Now, the second thing that's

3:35really important is actually being her

3:37type,

3:38okay?

3:40Because she maybe has a certain

3:41preference in types of dudes that she

3:43would want to be with. So, what I'm

3:45trying to tell you is that women are

3:46selective, okay? So, you have to find a

3:50woman

3:51who likes you. This is really important

3:54to understand. Okay, and every single

3:56guy has to do this to some degree, okay?

3:58And the reason why I'm telling you this

4:00is because like

4:02there is going to be some women, okay?

4:04There's going to be a woman that you

4:05meet and maybe she views you as a 10.

4:07And then there might be a different

4:08woman that you meet and she views you as

4:10a five. You're the same guy.

4:13But women have different preferences in

4:15who they would gravitate towards. So,

4:17with that said, okay, I want you to

4:18actually get in the habit

4:21of going after what you want in life and

4:23trying your best to not get discouraged

4:26if things don't work out.

4:28So, let's read that one more time. Get

4:29in the habit of going after what you

4:31want in life.

4:32If you want to build a really amazing

4:34business, then I want you to get in the

4:35habit of going after that. If you want

4:36to build a great body in the gym, get in

4:38the habit of going after that. If you

4:40want to learn a new skill, if you want

4:41to learn how to skateboard, you want to

4:43learn how to play guitar, you want to

4:45talk to that one really pretty woman,

4:47get in the habit of going after your

4:50goals.

4:51And then being okay if things don't work

4:53out. Because things might not work out.

4:56You might start that business and it

4:57could fail. That doesn't mean you're a

4:58failure. You might approach that woman

5:01and she's not into you. That doesn't

5:03mean you're unattractive.

5:05You might approach that woman and she's

5:06not attracted to you, but that does not

5:07mean that you are unattractive. It means

5:10that to her

5:11you're not her type.

5:13Okay, so I'm trying to tell you this so

5:15you take some of this pressure off

5:16yourself of having to learn the perfect

5:19game, you know, and having to do all of

5:21these things because in the real world,

5:23you're going to start to understand that

5:24the more action you take, the more life

5:26starts to work in your favor because you

5:28have a doer's mindset. You're a doer

5:32instead of a thinker.

5:33Guys who think a lot but never take

5:35action don't really get anywhere. So,

5:37like I said, okay, one woman can view

5:38you as a 10, the next a five, but it

5:40doesn't matter because you don't know if

5:41she's interested or invested until you

5:43go actually go up and talk. So, this is

5:46just a really good habit of getting

5:48into, okay? This is a really good habit

5:49of getting into because the woman who

5:51views you as a 10, you got to understand

5:53this.

5:54You'll need to basically do nothing

5:56other than say hello,

5:58and then ask her out on a date, and see

6:00if you two would want to exchange

6:01numbers and go out sometime.

6:03And the woman who likes you, okay,

6:05because you're her type and it's the

6:07right timing, just who you are as a

6:10person,

6:11how you look, how you act, how your

6:13voice sounds, the nuances in your

6:15speech, your mannerisms, just who you

6:17are and how you carry yourself,

6:19to her, she likes you.

6:21And that is the type of woman that you

6:23want to invest time into.

6:25So, when she has interest, this is how

6:28it actually looks, okay? I'm going to

6:30show you how it actually looks, and then

6:31I'm going to show you two things that

6:32modern men are missing. So, how it

6:34actually looks when a woman is

6:35interested in you is it looks like

6:37normal communication. That means there's

6:39no weird tests or her pulling away.

6:42Um,

6:43she doesn't try to change the location

6:45of the date, she "Maybe."

6:49or "We'll see." No, she exchanges

6:52numbers, then she'll text you her

6:54schedule when you ask when she's free.

6:56Then, if she's excited to see you, or

6:59she's excited to see you, and then she

7:01shows up on the date, and she has a

7:02great time because she actually likes

7:04you. She wants to be there. See, that's

7:06the thing is guys are trying to attract

7:07women that fundamentally don't have

7:08interest in you.

7:11Which means you have to be okay with

7:12rejection, which is why I originally

7:14said masculine men do not fear rejection

7:16from women.

7:17It's time that you maybe update some of

7:19your beliefs to get results a little bit

7:20quicker. If you've been watching dating

7:22content for 6 months or 12 months, or

7:24some of you even longer, and you're

7:26still not where you want to be,

7:28consuming more information is definitely

7:30not helping.

7:31Okay, so, I'm glad we got that out of

7:34the way.

7:35The woman who has interest will show up

7:37on that date and be happy to see you.

7:39What you have to understand is that if

7:41you're trying to communicate with a

7:42woman and she's giving you friction at

7:45all with communication, any friction in

7:47communication that you get, just stop

7:49texting her completely and just move on

7:51because she isn't into you.

7:54If you ask her when she's free or what

7:57her schedule is like and she says, "I'll

7:59let you know."

8:01Uh me personally, I would just never

8:02text back ever again.

8:05Because she wouldn't give that answer to

8:07a guy she had higher interest in. So,

8:09what you want to do is you want to have

8:10conversation and you want to figure out

8:12in a quick hurry who actually is on your

8:14team basically, who wants to be with

8:16you. So, the reason why I'm telling you

8:18this is because the older I get, there's

8:20a couple things that I notice is missing

8:21from how most men carry themselves.

8:24Okay, there's things that are missing,

8:26okay, things that are missing from

8:27modern men or even attractive men.

8:31Even attractive men a lot of times don't

8:33have these two traits. And the two

8:35traits that is very, very, very

8:37important to internalize as a masculine

8:39man would be bravery and courage.

8:44That's like half the battle.

8:46Bravery and courage to tell yourself

8:47that you're ready, to tell yourself that

8:49it's okay to take action, to tell

8:51yourself that even if you're nervous to

8:53get rejected, you're going to do things

8:56anyways because you know it's going to

8:57help get you to your goals. Okay, this

8:59is really important. These are two

9:01internal high-value traits that women

9:02find very attractive.

9:04Okay?

9:06Sometimes even if at first, maybe the

9:08first couple seconds, she didn't really

9:11have interest in you or maybe had

9:12lukewarm interest, now all of a sudden

9:14she sees that you have some internal

9:16traits that she likes, now all of a

9:18sudden her emotions work in your favor.

9:19That's how fast these things can change.

9:21So, women who actually like men or they

9:25actually like want to talk to men, this

9:27is what you got to understand. These

9:28women will actually appreciate that you

9:30have the courage and the bravery. Okay?

9:33They're not going to act rude to you or

9:34try to be rude to you. Now, here's what

9:36you got to understand. If she acts rude

9:38when you um

9:40tried to have conversation or

9:41communication, cool, no worries. Don't

9:43take it personally. Don't take it to

9:45heart. Just move on.

9:47You just chalk it up as a loss. You say,

9:48"Oh, next."

9:50Friction, bad attitude,

9:52I'll just talk to somebody else.

9:54You got to have that mindset of just

9:56keeping it moving. Okay, it's like, you

9:58know,

10:00a lot of times like

10:02like take an entrepreneur for example.

10:03Sometimes the entrepreneur that has a

10:05great successful flourishing business,

10:07you don't see all those years of

10:08failure. Maybe that dude started three,

10:11four, five, six, seven, eight different

10:12business ideas over the past, you know,

10:1410, 20 years and none of them worked,

10:15but then you only see the win.

10:17Well, okay, that's a lot of times how it

10:19is when a guy has a girlfriend.

10:21It's like he went through

10:23the bad times to figure out who actually

10:26likes him. That's actually called

10:28dating.

10:29So, I think that some guys are just

10:31completely coping by saying things like,

10:33"Oh, you know, what did she do to

10:35deserve my attention or any of this?"

10:37It's like, "Well, she probably didn't do

10:38anything, but you think she's hot. So,

10:40if you'd like to go out on a date with

10:41her, I don't see why you're just going

10:43to walk past every single beautiful

10:45woman for the next 6 to 12 months again

10:47just like you did last year and never

10:49say hi to anybody." Like, I hear this

10:51stuff. I see this stuff. It makes

10:53absolutely no sense.

10:54But every single guy wants to tell

10:56themselves how logical and rational they

10:58are.

10:59It's like, "Where's the results?"

11:02Okay? So, you have to be willing to

11:05actually update your beliefs as you age

11:08to get results and success more

11:10efficiently and effectively. Okay?

11:14So, let me give you an example. If

11:15you've watched and consumed dating

11:16content for months or years, but you

11:18still have no girlfriend or no family,

11:20this is an issue. And saying things

11:22like, "Oh, you know, no validation. I'm

11:24not going to validate her. I'm not going

11:26to talk to her. What did she do to

11:28deserve my attention?" Any of this

11:30stuff. This is not a good excuse to make

11:33up for lack of courage because a lot of

11:35guys are doing this and saying these

11:37things

11:39as almost like an escape to not have to

11:41ever face the fact that there's maybe

11:44some internal things when it comes to

11:45courage or bravery that they're lacking.

11:47Because the truth is that for most guys,

11:49even if she was really, really into you,

11:51a lot of times that guy would not even

11:52have the courage to talk to her in the

11:55first place the way that he actually

11:56needs to. So, this is really, really,

11:58really important to start to understand,

11:59okay?

12:00Now, also nuance is very important,

12:02sure. If you're on a date and you're

12:04sitting there just constantly validating

12:06and stuff and you're constantly giving

12:07all these compliments, yeah, that is a

12:09bit too much and too excessive. But to

12:12constantly

12:13never give yourself an opportunity to

12:15meet anybody new, I don't really

12:17understand how this problem is going to

12:19solve itself until you actually take the

12:21steps to do so. So, I want you to be

12:24okay with going after your goals in life

12:27and accept yourself for who you truly

12:29are. This is really, really important.

12:30So, I'd say most guys, if they just took

12:33more action, I really do believe this.

12:35This is my own belief. I really do

12:37believe that if most guys just took more

12:40action,

12:41okay?

12:43And let's say you just wanted to start

12:45talking to more people. You wanted to

12:46just meet more women and it doesn't

12:48matter where you're at, you're just

12:49going to talk to people and say hi and

12:50introduce yourself. I think if most guys

12:53did this, they would probably have a

12:55girlfriend within 3 to 6 months. Some

12:57maybe a little bit longer, some maybe a

12:59little bit shorter time duration, but I

13:01think most guys would be able to solve

13:02this problem simply through volume

13:04because I've been able to overcome every

13:06single problem in my life through

13:08volume. When I couldn't bench press 225

13:12lb, when I just went to the gym every

13:14single week and did incline barbell

13:17bench press for 100 weeks in a row, I

13:19solved my problem.

13:21When I was struggling,

13:23um,

13:24in my younger years to figure out how I

13:26wanted to build my career.

13:29When I just decided I was going to work

13:307 days a week and figure it out, good

13:33things happened. When I told myself,

13:35"You know what? I was just going to

13:36actually talk to the people I wanted to

13:38talk to." Every single problem I've ever

13:40had in my life, I solved through volume

13:42and through repetition and just doing

13:43it.

13:45You know, even like um

13:47even like this channel that you see.

13:49When I was younger, I wanted to have a

13:51big channel.

13:52I wanted to have a channel with over,

13:54you know, 100,000 subscribers or

13:56something. Well, what do you see today?

13:58Volume. I've uploaded on this channel

14:00thousands of times. Look what happens.

14:03Everything in life

14:05that you want to have happen starts to

14:07happen when you take action. But, most

14:09guys just refuse to do this. They want

14:11to watch video after video after video,

14:13which is why at this point in the video,

14:15I advise you to do one thing, okay?

14:18If you've went a lot of days, weeks,

14:20months, or years without results,

14:22I want you to do two things. The first

14:24thing that I want you to do is I want

14:25you to join us inside of the community

14:27that I built so that way I can help you

14:28learn, understand, and master the

14:30language of women so that way you're

14:31around a community of other dudes

14:34solving these problems in their life as

14:36well.

14:37You are now around other guys who are

14:40learning, understanding, and mastering

14:41the language of women as well. So, join

14:44us inside of that because this is a

14:45process that I created to actually help

14:47you. That is the first thing that I want

14:49you to do. The second thing that I want

14:50you to do is actually make a commitment

14:53to yourself to every day start to

14:55actually take action so your life

14:57changes for the better. Hit the like

14:59button, comment, and subscribe, and

15:00we'll see you in the next one.

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